Focusing on healing ourselves in Jesus is a fundamental part of the Christian walk, but there are things that often get in the way.
For me, there were patterns that kept repeating within myself and in my relationships. I saw the behaviors that I knew were wrong, but I could not untangle the mess within that kept me stuck in these things.
If you get online much, especially on social media, you might have noticed a trend in narcissist talk. There seems to be a lot of people exposing narcissistic behaviors, for example. For the last couple of years, this trend caught my interest because I could relate to some of the narcissistic traits, and I thought I saw these things in others also. I would read some of the content, and I thought that things were not very accurately represented. There is no compassion or real understanding for the narcissist–just bashing that quite frankly seemed narcissistic in itself.
Recently, I started exploring this topic more, which lead to exploring codependency as well.
There is a term called the “codependent-narcissistic dance” which describes the relationship between the two many become trapped in.
In learning about this, I saw myself. I also saw how all of this might apply to others. In-fact, I view this as a kind of spectrum that most, if not all of us, fit on in some capacity. I saw how this can apply to many things, even our government and society. I also saw how the teaching of Jesus speak to these issues very deeply. There is healing for codependency and narcissism in Christ.
There is a lot of great insight and information out there, but not a lot of Christian-based information. As a Christian, I think there is much to be gained–and also much lacking–in the science of psychology in general and in counseling practices.
Maybe this is my narcissistic side or my codependent side, or maybe this is the calling of the Holy Spirit, but in any case, I’ve started a new blog: Jesus Alone.
I want to explore these ideas more and share the insight I think I have been given pertaining to codependency recovery, narcissistic recovery, healthy family dynamics, and how the teachings of Jesus apply in these areas. Of course, if you’re reading this you know I’m not a certified councilor or anything, but that can be a gift in the Spirit that does not come from man, so, take it for what it may or may not be worth.
As of now, I plan to approach this casually without scheduled posting dates. If you are interested, check it out and subscribe. There is nothing to see there yet, but I want to make mention of it here because the things I have learned through writing at KindlingTruth will greatly inform the work done there. As for this site, I’m not sure what I will do. I might finish the series’ I began then clean the site up a bit.
Thank you to those of you who have put up with me the last few years, and I look forward to getting into this new phase of healing and growth in Jesus Christ!