Have you ever struggled with trust issues? I certainly have. I still do. What do you do when it seems like most people around you have some kind of agenda or want to slander you for reasons you can only assume?
There are people I know, who like me, have a very difficult time trusting others. Once you’ve been betrayed a few times, it tends to have a heart-hardening effect that makes you second-guess everything and everyone.
There is no peace in this, and worry over these things can hinder relationships. Especially if fear of betrayal causes you to see the worst in everyone or accuse people falsely. I know because I’ve been there.
How do you find peace when it seems like there is no one you can trust? If you’re a Christian, try to find comfort in Jesus.
People are flawed and even the best person can hurt you. Remember that they might not mean to, and also keep in mind that you’ve probably hurt your fair share of people too. If someone does you wrong and apologizes, let it go. Forgiveness is not only important for your peace, as Christians we should always forgive because we were first forgiven.
As for those who are purposefully malicious, try to be kind to them. People who want to slander you are probably very insecure, and a little love from the one they slander might go a long way towards pricking their conscience so they might turn away from it.
In any case, the single most important thing you can do is trust in Jesus. Even if the whole world is trying to tear you down, he will never betray you. When we put our trust in the Lord, he gives us everything we need to find peace and happiness. Trusting in man will very often lead to disappointment.
That being said, one of the most difficult things we should do is learn to let people in our lives instead of allowing pains from the past cause us to wall ourselves off from the world. That is no way to live. People are going to gossip. People are going to see the worst in you. People are going to make harmful assumptions and spread lies about you. Insecure people are going to try to tear your reputation down.
Be kind to people. Don’t back stab. Don’t assume. Don’t spread gossip and lies. Pray for the Lord to keep your heart guarded from unforgiveness, bitterness, jealousy, insecurity, and hate. Pray for the Lord to help others heal so they do not sin against him.
Do good to everyone, trust Jesus, and let him be your avenger. When we are trustworthy and trusting, we will tend to attract other trustworthy, trusting people or inspire it in others.
If you have people in this life you can trust, that’s a wonderful thing. Nurture those relationships and keep Jesus at the center of them.
These are all things I’m striving for, and I know how hard it can be so don’t beat yourself up if you struggle with trust or with being untrustworthy. Both sides of this have heart issues that Jesus can heal if we put our faith in him.
We might not always be the most trustworthy or trusting people, but Jesus is always true.